Parenting OR Child Abuse??
Hello friends. Today ill like to express my views on a somewhat sensitive topic. Parenting is the process of raising your child. There are different models demonstrated in the society today and parents tend to follow these models based on their own nature and what best suits them. "Rules of the traffic model", "strict father model", "reward and punishment model" to name a few. Today ill like to discuss when is that parenting enters child abuse. Is there a fine line that differentiates this, and if yes when do we realise we have reached that line? Does spanking your child for wrong really make you cross that line or is it something else?
Before continuing, let us make an assumption. All the parents in the world love their child/children, even the ones that have been charged for child abuse. So if every parent loves their child, why would they abuse them? One argument says that parental choices and other unforeseen circumstances that place families under extraordinary stress ― for instance, poverty, divorse, sickness, disability and drugs are often associated to child abuse or neglect. This sounds reasonable as people do tend to break down under such conditions. But is it only this or is there something else that gets into a parents mind before he crosses that line? I would like to request all readers to please express their views on this, because in the next paragraph ill express strictly my views with no generalisation.
What I feel is when a parent reaches a stage where he thinks he completely owns his child, it is then he crosses the line. Let me put "completely" into perspective. Completely here refers to both physical and mental. The feeling of complete ownership gives the parent the mental ability to do bad for his/her child. If a parent respects his child a different human being, I think he would never come across this situation. Even if he occasionally spanks the child, it will be for the childs good, because the parent will have in mind to raise his child as a complete human being. People might say if we dont own a "thing" how will we show affection towards it. I agree to that, and thats where the difference between a "thing" and a "child" comes. "You buy a thing to love it, you love your child to reflect you". If a childs personality reflects good parenting, you will earn the respect of the society. A "thing " is an asset to your money, your child is an asset to your values.
I think I was able to make a point, and I kept it short because I was running out of words. If you donot agree with my views you can write to me and express your views on this topic. I really appreciate you reading through this post and promise you that I would try to come with better ones in the future.
-Ashish
Before continuing, let us make an assumption. All the parents in the world love their child/children, even the ones that have been charged for child abuse. So if every parent loves their child, why would they abuse them? One argument says that parental choices and other unforeseen circumstances that place families under extraordinary stress ― for instance, poverty, divorse, sickness, disability and drugs are often associated to child abuse or neglect. This sounds reasonable as people do tend to break down under such conditions. But is it only this or is there something else that gets into a parents mind before he crosses that line? I would like to request all readers to please express their views on this, because in the next paragraph ill express strictly my views with no generalisation.
What I feel is when a parent reaches a stage where he thinks he completely owns his child, it is then he crosses the line. Let me put "completely" into perspective. Completely here refers to both physical and mental. The feeling of complete ownership gives the parent the mental ability to do bad for his/her child. If a parent respects his child a different human being, I think he would never come across this situation. Even if he occasionally spanks the child, it will be for the childs good, because the parent will have in mind to raise his child as a complete human being. People might say if we dont own a "thing" how will we show affection towards it. I agree to that, and thats where the difference between a "thing" and a "child" comes. "You buy a thing to love it, you love your child to reflect you". If a childs personality reflects good parenting, you will earn the respect of the society. A "thing " is an asset to your money, your child is an asset to your values.
I think I was able to make a point, and I kept it short because I was running out of words. If you donot agree with my views you can write to me and express your views on this topic. I really appreciate you reading through this post and promise you that I would try to come with better ones in the future.
-Ashish
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